When Ambrosia was a newborn, I was so scared to take her anywhere by myself. I remember being in Macy’s and Ambrosia started to scream out of nowhere. I couldn’t find my parents anywhere and I started to worry. A lot of the workers and some older ladies started to look at me like I didn’t know how to handle my baby. I knew she was hungry, but I was still too ashamed to breastfeed in public. I was a mess and was not used to this! Going places with J was never a problem because if she started to get fussy, he was there to help me. However, when I finally took her shopping all by myself, I almost panicked when she started to scream. Luckily, I kept my cool and calmed her down. I didn’t realize just how stressful it would be to have a simple outing with Ambrosia. Here are a few tips I’ve learned within the past 7 months:
This playlist is found in Spotify
1.) Make a car playlist
Ambrosia is not fond of car rides or her car seat one bit. She will scream from Point A to Point B almost every time we get into the car! One thing I noticed is that if her favorite songs are playing (Barney), she starts to calm down and (sometimes) falls asleep. A good tip is to make a playlist of all the songs your baby loves so you don’t have to be touching your phone while you’re on the road.
2.) Wear your baby
Ohhhh my lanta – this! We baby wear Ambrosia everywhere. We invested in two carriers so that we never have to adjust the same carrier when we change who wears her. J uses the Ergo 360 and I use the Lillebaby All Seasons; we also use our baby wrap from time to time. When Ambrosia was around 3-5 months, the baby wrap worked wonders for us. She loved to be snuggled up against our chest. As she got older, we turned to our Soft Structured Carriers (SSC) more because they were easier. SSCs also help out a bunch when you want to walk around and breastfeed. It does take some getting used to, but once you’ve got it down you’re pretty much good to go.
3.) Feed anywhere, anytime
At first, I was so nervous to breastfeed in public. Though I know the law and my rights, it was just something I needed to get comfortable with. Before, I would bring my breastfeeding cover everywhere. Now? I just pull down my shirt and feed my baby. Or sometimes I go into a fitting room just because it’s more comfortable than finding a chair in the stores. I will not let anyone tell me where I can and can’t breastfeed especially when she starts to get fussy. Don’t like it? Don’t look. It’s that simple. (BTW, if you still feel a little nervous, get one of the breastfeeding law cards that way if someone tells you that you can’t breastfeed in a certain place, show them the card. J carries one everywhere just in case one day some crazy decides to disrespect me whilst breastfeeding.)
First: BFF in Perky Toki. Second: Be Sporty in Super Toki. Third: Mini Be in Unikiki 2.0.
4.) Use a smaller diaper bag
In one of my future posts, I’ll be talking about all the diaper bags we own. (We have like 10+) I’ve started collecting Ju-Ju-Be bags in different styles and prints because I can use each and every one for a specific outing. The bags that we use when we have a family day are either our Ju-Ju-Be BFF or our Ju-Ju-Be Be Sporty. However, when I go out with Ambrosia on my own, I like to use our MiniBe. It’s the perfect size for baby wearing and isn’t a pain to lug around. I pack the necessities and nothing more.
5.) Try not to stress too much
I know it sounds silly to hear… but really. Try not to panic if you’re out in public and your baby starts to get fussy. We’ve all been there. Though some moms won’t admit it, we’ve all felt that heart-dropping moment when your baby starts to scream and all eyes are on you. Just because some moms/ladies look at you like you have no idea what you’re doing, there are other moms who are the sweetest and offer help. Don’t be embarrassed to accept it. I was out shopping with Ambrosia and didn’t think I needed a cart or a basket. Then of course, I dropped everything in my hands. A sweet mama saw that I was baby wearing and though she had three little kids of her own, offered to pick everything up for me. There are still such genuine and kind mamas out there!
Those are just a few tips that I thought might help in case you ever have to take your baby out on your own. Hopefully they work out for you!
I know I haven’t been blogging a lot lately and I’m so sorry about that! It’s amazing seeing that I’m still getting so many views from all over the world 🙂 thanks for keeping up with the blog and I promise I’ll be posting more soon! Don’t forget to subscribe to get notified for all of my future posts! A few of the topics I’ll be writing about soon are: cloth diapering, going back to work, how we feed Ambrosia and why, and what’s in my diaper bagS! Stay tuned. Xo!